The other blog I belong to has a lot of NSFW material so I am inclined to post this elsewhere for obvious reasons.
This was reblogged from a blogger who at this time I shall leave unnamed until such permission is granted to share it.
My friend shared this picture on Facebook and I clicked on it and read some of the comments.
I don’t even know why I do things like this, because I just get infuriated.
So many people were saying things that was so hateful and cruel or just idiotic I couldn’t stand it.
He’s only 7 how does he know what he wants?
That’s weird because when I was 7, I already had crushes on boys, as do most kids. I knew I liked boys, and nobody made a big deal about it.
And I babysit a little 5 year old boy and he always tells me what girls he thinks are pretty. Nobody bats an eye, people say things like “he’ll be a heartbreaker on day.” So what’s the difference exactly? Because it doesn’t fit with your mindset?
How does he already know about sex and stuff, how horrible!?
First of all, crushes have nothing to do with sex. It’s basic child sexual development, but those are not the same thing. How many 7 year olds like boys or girls already and know nothing about sex? A ton! Also, what’s horrible about a child knowing about sex? It’s not horrible to tell your child some things, especially if they ask. It’s good to be able to talk to your child about important subjects, especially since most parents won’t.
If my kid told me he was gay, I would fix that real quick!
Oh really? So you wouldn’t accept your own child? Your child came to you with something personal, and that’s how you react? And then you would try to change him/her? Kiss that open relationship goodbye while you are at it then. Why would a child want to tell you anything or try to be close to a parent that doesn’t even accept them for who they are.
Also, I saw a comment that said “Parents need to stop being so open-minded like this. Open-mindedness is what brings in the devil.”
I’m not even going to touch that one.
I shared this on another social site and added that I wholeheartedly agree with the writer of the above. I also, however, began just typing away, as I often do when it’s something close to my heart and inline with my own beliefs and experiences. Here is what I added as my thoughts to the above statement.
Wow, this is fantastic! I think this mother is doing the right thing for her child! If the child is intelligent enough to ask the questions, then he is making decisions on his own based on the answers he receives and basically how he interprets them for himself. This is where important child rearing is key. The children do not necessarily have the life skills to make a fully informed educated life changing decision. But if he says he likes boys the way that you would have expected him to like girls, take that discussion to the next level. Find out for yourself what he actually knows, why he says he feels the way he does, if the answers are sound, take it as such. If your religious beliefs are contrary to what your family believes then that should be a topic of conversation just as the rest of it was. You will not be wrong by instructing or showing him why you believe what you believe and pointing out how his feelings and or beliefs conflict with them, but you shall not condemn or extricate him from the families life because his opinion differs from your own. No one is saying that you cannot say that the child is wrong. It is possible that what he is asking is, in your eyes is wrong or not the “normal” way YOU would EXPECT for him to go. It may not be inline or aligned with your families beliefs, but I’m sorry to say, it’s more than likely that not all members of your family have followed in those footsteps and no one should hinder your own son from being allowed to create his own path. All through his childhood it’s considered biblical for the parent to “raise the child the way he should go and when he is old he shall not depart from it.” True only if the child is not condemned into a lifestyle that he has stated to be in disagreement with. If his judgement is sound and and it’s what he says he knows to be feeling, how can you honestly try to dissuade him? How is it you feel when you’re told your feelings are wrong and that (whatever it is) is not going to be allowed. Who are they to tell you what you’re feeling? It’s maturity on a child’s part to be able to recognize that his feelings are different and it’s knowledge permitting him to be able to stand up for himself because he knows the alternative is painful and not what he wants. Think of the harmony that will be in the child heart all through life if he is not ostracized or excommunicated for the way he feels. I think that overwhelming feelings of goodness, unselfishness, and individuality will be able to exude from within and what a joy that would be to see! I’d compare it to anyone who has had the “coming out” experience. It is horribly painful, especially if someone else beats you to the punch of telling your own loved ones. But the feeling of lightness, the weight off of your shoulders, your eyes being opened to a life that has been condemned, being able to carry yourself upright, you may feel rejuvenated and ready to conquer the world or just the local non-profit PRIDE organization for the
LGBTQIA community and do it with PRIDE! But the child who is not condemned for who he is, who is able to grow up with information and the ability to make decisions he would never have the sudden flood of all these feelings which for many can be way too much for them to handle all at once.
Well enough said, but I totally agree with the sentiments of the attached…
